This thing called Love
Who wrote the book of love?
In the late 1950s, a rock and roll group known as the Monotones wondered "who wrote the book of love?" Philosophers, poets, and couples consumed with passion have been asking the same question for eons. And now, even scientists have entered the fray, wiring the brain with electrodes and watching for telltale signs of electrical ecstasy, as well as searching for the elusive molecules that bind one lover to another.
To be sure, no one has been entirely successful. But a possible answer to the Monotones' plaintive query is "Love is a story."
A story each of us is constantly writing and rewriting. Love develops, grows, and lasts when a person finds someone else who fits what his or her particular story is all about.
Love is certainly the thing we crave the most and have the most trouble getting, and love also involves a kind of intelligence
If you really want to understand love, you have to look at how it develops and evolves. The story is who you are. And it's never completed. Your personal story is very dynamic.
You have to know your own story and it has to mesh with your partner's story. A story isn't necessarily good or bad. The important thing in determining the outcome of a relationship is finding someone who fits in as a character in the story you feel comfortable writing.
Love is a personal thing -- and a risky one. You're putting yourself on the line. Failing at love is very different from failing a test.
When you're between 18 and 22, you don't really know who you're going to become, and the kind of relationship that might work on a long-term basis is not yet clear.
Our only hope is that when you get ready to settle down, the question you ask a potential partner won't be, "What's your sign?" but rather, "What's your story?
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